An increase in Intimate Partner Violence caused startling revelations for many during COVID quarantines
NEW YORK, NY / ACCESSWIRE / November 2, 2021 / The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCADV) reports that nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. Women between the ages of 18-24 are most commonly abused by an intimate partner. During the COVID-19 pandemic, there has been a dramatic increase in domestic violence or Intimate Partner Violence (IPV). Statistics from the New York City Police Department and NYS.GOV show a 10% rise in domestic violence in New York since the COVID-19 pandemic began.
The pandemic created a perfect environment for IPV to flourish. The combination of lockdowns, job losses, and financial insecurity led to unbearable stress - a leading factor in IPV. Women have been frequently isolated in the same living space as their partners. When tensions mounted and fighting intensified, escape wasn't possible. These bizarre circumstances forced many women who had never identified themselves as IPV victims to look at their home life and realize their partner's bad behavior wasn't everyday anger or frustration. It was domestic abuse.
Lily Sanders, a domestic violence expert, survivor, and creator of LilySanders.Live, remarks how "victims try to hold on to many myths, one of the most common being, we were having a bad day, and it won't happen again. The cold, hard truth is that domestic violence is never a one-off occurrence. A bad day turns into a bad month, and then a bad year, and you are left feeling powerless."
According to NCBI research, abuse is rarely constant. Its lack of consistency is confusing for victims. It causes many to stay, hoping they can save their marriage or relationship. Sanders says, "This cannot be further from the truth. The hard fact is that domestic violence intensifies over time. Unless you break the relationship, the relationship will surely break you."
In LilySanders.Live seminars, and coaching sessions, Sanders recalls her domestic abuse over 15 years and two marriages. "I became another statistic, enduring cervical vertebrae damages, black eye, concussion, broken collar bone, lockjaw, strangulations, and urinating down the sides of my legs. One day I looked outside of myself, and thought, ‘Oh my God, how did I get here?!' I ran for my life, and I knew it was time to rewrite it."
Sanders urges women who have dared to leave abusive relationships to take steps to reclaim their self-worth. "There are systemic symptoms that arise from sustained abuse, and they must be addressed. Provided that you get to the root cause, you can overcome the trauma and break the mold. But if you stay in the old belief system and continue the familiar destructive patterns of thought, the cycle is likely to continue and will be back in different disguises."
She adds, "Every decision you made has brought you to this moment. All of these experiences can be let go, and you have free will to do it. These adverse experiences are not your life and do not define who you are. At the same time, the experiences can be teachers that bring you to a turning point where you can reclaim your life.
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